Well I did confront wife about the love note. She waffled, said they had been dating for a couple weeks, I responded note said a couple months. I said I don't care anymore, i just want you to be happy and no more lies to me. She said she is really sorry and she never meant to hurt me. She didn't think it was an affair since we were allowed to date. I said only you, him, and god know when it started, and that the secrecy and the lies are the only part that bother me. So it started with syrupy sweet for the most part.
The next day she calls in the a.m. asking who else was told of note. I responded that I did tell her mom and sister and that I have been telling everyone else I talk to that I am sure their is another man. She was a little snappy about me going through the garbage to get it and definitely had some spew.
Today was another good day. I dropped off the kids and she was coming back from a walk. We went outside to talk because S7 had a tough time today dealing with why mom and me didn't go to easter together. She talked and said that we both treated each other very poorly in our marriage, she tried so hard and so did I. She is sorry for the kids and everyone involved with our drama.
We agreed that we lost our connection and quit working as a team. The fog is gone. This is the woman I married again. She said she just wants to see me smile again and she really does love me. I don't know if I believe her about the love part cause it just doesn't seem right to divorce someone you love.
I do want her to be happy and she wants me to be happy. preferably i would have liked to see if we could get our relationship on track, but this was a great consolation prize. Niether of us are bad people, we just made a bad relationship that was unhealthy for everyone involved. I think when it got out of control i wanted her to change and she wanted me to change and it just won't work like that.
If nothing else, exposure helped me to feel a much better closure to this relationship.
