WAH and I had a chance meeting two days ago.

It ended a 5 week period of NC for me.

Now WAH and I are talking finances - on email - and while yes, we did need to have this conversation, I'm now anxious that all that "control" I felt I had gained while in NC is now under threat...

I know the NC was mostly for my benefit, but it also sent him a strong 180 message and made him MUCH more curious about me.

Is it normal to not feel that opening up to a bit of adult, purposeful communication with a WAS is also taking away your power and security? Or do I need to grow a backbone?

Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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