I'm gonna try to make this brief and readable:

We are currently working towards a divorce. My w filed for divorce at the beginning of the year, but hasn't done anything towards finishing it(she hasn't done any of her financial paperwork).

During the past 4 months she's spent little time with our kids, is usually at the gym. She has arranged several weekends to sleep away from the home, telling me she was sleeping at a girlfriends house. She has taken several trips out of town, including one to Denver to visit her "aunt".

This weekend she took my kids with her across country to visit her parents for spring break for 7 days. Last night I discovered a hotel room key card/envelope from the local ritz carlton. It included the check out date, and the name of the Man the room was for. It is a man that she went to college with in her home town and has reconnected with on Facebook. The date is one the specific weekends that she was supposed to be staying at at girl friends home.

I was pretty sure she was doing this, and since we are working towards a divorce, I had stopped worrying about it. However, finding real confirmation of a physical affair with details of who and when has really surprised me. I'm way more upset than I think I should be.

We are currently living in the same home. I'm in the master bedroom, she is in the guestroom. It feels like torture. I work out the house teaching music lessons 2-3 days a week. I need to stay in the house. For the past month, I've been pushing for the divorce. She agreed to save money by coming to a basic agreement ourselves. She was motivated by my offer of having my L write up the initial agreement, saving her a lot of legal fees.
We presented her L with the offer three weeks ago, and there has been no response.

My questions:
Do I need to confront her about her lies and the affair, or just wait out the divorce process?

Should I try to expose the affair to her family? I have had no contact with them since the bomb, and I think W has turned them against me.

How do I further protect my kids from this crap?


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