I had the afternoon to think on this. There is a positive note here.
Your husband acknoweldged he uses people. He acknowledged he lies and plays games with people.
He blames OTHERS though for the flaws in his relationships. He uses people and then quits the relationship when it begins to fall apart.
He has admitted in a way that he HAS a problem. This is a positive. I can`t see him doing that if he didn`t honeslty believe it.
But YOU need to protect yourself and your son from him until he gets some help. If your father can find a referral to a good IC that deals with sociopathy you can snail mail him the business card, but not much else... he needs to want to do this. Any involvement by you is just him taking advantage of you again.
You need to invest minimal time into it or he`s just using you. IN a way he`s using everyone on this forum who contributes to your thread to help him. You need to keep your involvement to minimum. I think a referral to a professional who is trained to help is appropriate, other than that you should just let him do whatever damage he`s gonna do with OW... you know that`s not going to last.
It is a positive that he`s admitted he has a problem. He just needs some direction, but you can`t do that, send a business card for a professional for him and that`s all the time you have for him... every minute more is a minute he steals away from you and your son. Once you get him someone who can help him you have done the best you can do from where I am sitting.
