Just stopping by to see how you are holding up. I have been sick this weekend, probably an allergy overload. Good for you taking care of what needed done.
I know what you mean about keeping the house. As the kids get older, the child support will decrease and I will have to decide whether to stay here or not. For now I am fine and working on getting things fixed as I can. Maybe that is all we can do...one day at a time.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
The kids got home a bit later than usual for Sunday......D16 brought BF with them to join in the Easter fun. They quickly dug in to their baskets and found the eggs....at least most of them. I think there may be another couple somewhere.....or I miscounted. I cooked dinner, we ate as a family and colored eggs.....usually do this sooner, but this is what schedule allowed. I know D13 was disappointed about things being "not the same as always," but this is the way it is.
S11 got "Where The Wild Things Are" in his basket. We planned to sit and watch the movie after D16 took BF home. I fell asleep at some point....woke when she got home and was awake for the beginning and most of the end of the movie. It was hard to stay awake....cuddled under the blanket with S11. When the movie was over, I had to wake D16 to tell her we were going to bed. On the way up, S11 asked if we could "sleep in a pile" like in the movie. It was cute.....he then followed with "can I sleep with you?" This doesn't happen as much as it used to....used to be EVERY night...and I used to complain, but not anymore. It was a good end to a good evening.
I have GREAT kids and I love them more than life itself!
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Diana, I'm glad that you had a nice Easter with your kids
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S11 asked if we could "sleep in a pile" like in the movie. It was cute.....he then followed with "can I sleep with you?" This doesn't happen as much as it used to....used to be EVERY night...and I used to complain, but not anymore. It was a good end to a good evening
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My D was the same, came to our bed in the middle of the night until she was about 12. Now she is 16 and she came to my bed the week my H left. It was probably as great comfort for her as it was for me. We still had each other....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
H came to pick up S11 for baseball practice. I had already sent D13 to her practice for DI. Apparently she also had softball tonight. I didn't know. H was obviously upset---acted as if he didn't know about DI practice---but I'm sure it's because he doesn't read the e-mails if it's not softball related. In any case, I'm sure it's my fault---not knowing about softball. He also acted as if he had pre-planned a ride home for her. Don't quite know how he was going to get her there, since S11 also had practice. I don't know that I can do this.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
I hate this. I hate the feeling of losing control. I thought I had things in check, but I cannot face a life of angry encounters about schedules for kids. There has to be a better way. The man I saw tonight pick up my son is NOT the man I fell in love with and have loved for so long. The man he has become is not likeable. I wonder if that's how he sees me. I guess I don't have to wonder, he decided a long time ago that he was done with me. I just want to take my kids and run away.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Wow di! You have been dealing with this for a long time! I admire your patience and strength! I will have to read your sitch from the beginning...just wanted to say hi! Wish I could offer more...hang in there!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
The woman who was F-ing and going down on my former best friend was NOT the woman I fell in love with and had loved for so long either.
I think it was MLC. : o
But the woman you fell in love with returned??? After how long??? And is your former best friend still alive?? I guess I still don't know the details of your sitch.......I know. It doesn't matter----with respect to where I am at.
I have only recently accepted the fact that the D is going to happen. In order to accept this, I have come to the conclusion that I can't treat H like a friend anymore. I am trying to set boundaries. I am trying to treat this as it is. I can't act like all is fine and dandy----that we are going to divorce and be the best of friends and raise our kids as if we were only living in separate houses. I know this is what he wants...and even EXPECTS, becaue THIS is what he wants.
So.....the last two years of acting like a doormat----trying to keep him as "happy" as possible hoping for his return-----are now back to bite me in the a#@! BUT of course, they were biting me all along as I kept trying to raise my hopes only to have H dash them once again which led to me falling apart....over and over again...I'm still falling apart.....Jack, I'm sure you saw this coming all along. You've seen it more than once.
Newcomers, please learn from my mistakes!!
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Confusedwife - read my sitch----and learn. I have tried my best to be patient and strong, but it has only kept me stuck in a place that no one should be. Do your best to learn what this all is really about---finding YOU, focusing on you and who you are to be.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Just remember that the advice can be given but until you are ready, yourself, it won't make much sense. And will go unheeded. It really amkes all the difference...stop thinking about what your spouse may or not be doing or why they are even doing it.
This is about you now.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
