Spend the night at your neighbor's too.

H4L:All I keep thinking is how happy he said he is without me


Yeah, he's real happy with his anger attacks, pill popping, freak outs, and compulsion to buy a new plane despite the precariousness of your family's situation.

When going dark, tell yourself you are shaving months off this b.s. Maybe that will help. Some positive motivation to do it. You can't change the outcome by not doing it occasionally. BElieve me!