Number 8: I'd just like to think he's thinking of me and would call to check in on me (wishful thinking, I know).
He may be thinking of you and telling himself a reason NOT to call on this holiday. Like that he's doing you a favor to get you used to the future of your singleness, not wanting to upset him or you, or whatever. DETACH. You'll never know!
He has done this before--told himself reasons for NOT getting in touch on a holiday or important day. For instance, he did this on the anniversary of my mother's passing. I was stunned that I did not hear from him on that day. We talked the next day (he called me), and I brought up that I had been to dinner the night before with friends to memorialize the day. He said that he had thought of me that day but knew he shouldn't call. I asked why that was. He said that he figured he was the last person I wanted to hear from or talk to on that day. I told him that that wasn't true, but I did NOT tell him that he was the ONLY person I had wanted to hear from that day. My father didn't remember, my uncle (mother's brother) didn't remember, but I had counted on H to remember. I understand why he didn't get in touch, but I wish he would stop trying to read my mind or predict what I want or don't want.
Also, since I read your post, I HAVE heard from H. He sent a text a little while ago that said this: "Happy spring fertility festival"
This is very typical of how we've interacted over our years together. We've always done silly holiday wishes, among other things.
I waited about 20 minutes after I received the text before I responded with this: "Benevolent vernal wishes as the sun crosses the celestial equator to you as well. Puppy has celebrated the right ascension by enjoying a bone."
I may or may not hear from him any more today, but I'm happy to hear from him. I'm also happy that I heard from him in the morning hours instead of right before bedtime.
