Mom is cooking up a feast. I usually make a leg of lamb and bring it over but I wasn't up to it this year. I have a great braised lamb recipe if you are interested..it literally falls off the bone. My father is making the lamb this year, as well as the prime rib- he is the meat guy..my mother makes the trillion other things to go along with it. There are alot of us..and with nieces and nephews now..and dogs- it is kind of a crazy day ahead.
I think you are right about too much interaction. It is hard to find a balance. Me and my H have talked about how we don't have a connection right now..and well..we cannot really connect if we dont spend time together or talk..so what am I to do? But if he isn't ready to let go of his connection OW and put effort into forming a connection with his W..it is like trying to stick a square peg in a round hole.
Part of me thinks he is just going through the motions of MC and seeing eachother here and there..just to say he has tried everything and perhaps gain back a bit of respect. A very small part of me thinks he wants to get his M back..and his life back. I am mind reading..yes.
Perhaps this is part of my H depression or PD, but I think he needs that passion in his life...that instability..and drama. We had a very stable life..which could be suffocating to someone who is depressed. They need to have a high to feel alive. He is not passionate about work..or life in general..therefore expects it to all come from his partner.
My H said something interesting to me after MC this week..when he was blaming our M..he said that "everyone wants to believe that I am sick..and maybe I am..but our M contributed to this as well." I think he knows there is something not right within..
