The countdown continues

[flowmom]

Awoken, I wish I could answer your questions. I agree with rr that it's too soon to take action.

I think it's very important to recognize that getting the details of the A is another bomb for you, and that you're dealing with the "shattering" that comes with that. Even if you don't wish to be married to your W, there are a lot of ties that bind you and having to deal with evidence of this betrayal is a lot to absorb.

This is a time to be really gentle with yourself. Try to alternate distraction and focus on the present to cope. Use the red stop sign every time your thoughts go back to obsessing. Talking to someone IRL and vent if you can. Reach out to a friend and get some warmth and a hug.

Detaching is a process and it's understandable that this would feel like a setback.

(((Awoken)))