I feel like a failure this evening. I had a great morning with my d. We went to the park did some shopping. We played all day and W just hung around the house.
I chickened out of exposing even though I had an opportune time! I just kept thinking about how W would react and how it might ruin Easter.
Tomorrow reality will set in and W will take D off to IL leaving me home alone.
Why won't I stand up for myself!
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation
That might have been someone else. I've been out since August and just posting recently. That's why I asked I think that was something I should have done.
I'm wondering how to move back in there without being seen as 'forcing' my way.
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation
I dont think there is any real explanation required...it's your bed too, if she doesnt want to sleep in it she's welcome to sleep in the guest bedroom.
Very true guys. Another slap in the face W takes D on Easter to MIL and never asked me what if anything I planned. They just up and leave. I was fuming but just waved good-bye. So much for me trying to preserve Easter and not bringing up affair last night.
I'm dealing this evening with this chit. Letting her know that I'm aware of everything and won't live like this anymore. I've just worked out all our bills per month and have split the costs out between W and I. I've been subsidizing her side to the tune of over $500 a month. That's the first thing. Joint accounts and joint credit all end on Monday (unless some miracle happens tonight).
I'm going into protection phase. I'll suggest she leave but I can't make her. We'll see how that goes.
Oh yea and I'm sleeping in my own bed tonight
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation
Well it all went pretty poorly. I stated my boundary. W denied, denied, denied. She then brought up recorder and I used Puppy's line. I stated the outcome if A didn't end. I was a little emotional but kept my voice in check and no tears. W stormed upstairs and locked herself in her room.
Who shows up to my house 10 minutes later - ILs with BIL.
I apologized to them for having to come out. W starts ranting about all the threats I made like 'sleeping in my own bed' and 'separating finances' as if those are threats.
FIL then asks about recorder. I stated the same thing to him. He just started yelling so I went upstairs.
W comes up and says 'I'm going to stay with my parents and take d'. I said you can do what you want but I don't recommend getting D in the middle. Then she says well MIL is staying. I say okay. FIL says something mean on the way out and I replied 'I hope you'll consider supporting our M'
W came to my room "I was just about to ask us to work on R until I found that recorder"
All in all a rough night. I'm off to work. More later.
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation
W came to my room "I was just about to ask us to work on R until I found that recorder"
TOLD you. Typical script. They ALLLLWAAAYYYYS say this one.
Sorry that the in-laws are being such a-holes, BWP, but remember, you don't know what lies your wife has told them, so try to give grace in this area and continue to conduct yourself in the highest manner with regards to them.
