I didn't say she could stuff a limp noodle in her, but she can breath life into it if she wanted it badly and you did not necessarily want it for that session.
There are many things we do for each other, and many times its not when were upto it, we do it for each other.
I'm not condoning rape, but if a couple wants to be rough behind closed doors and thats what they want to do, then thats their right.
If she says no and her actions say "no" then that means "no". In my case if my wife really is disinterested its not going to happen unless she has an inkling of desire, or wants me to have it.
When we were younger I tested this boundary and found it was much worse to take it when she doesn't want it.
So no was not condoning rape, but I do not believe in use of sex as a control device. I also believe regular sex will keep your sex drive up, even if you are not necessarily interested. Also I believe that there is going to be generousity in a relationship, and one way is the mutual grooming of each other, the emotional and physical intimacy, at times making your partners need a priority.
Its not always about us and and its not always about them.
Also if the male was not necessarily in the mood, say for months on end, but he could perform the act, but he doesn't "need" it. If he disallowed his wife emotional and physical intimacy for months, I believe over time she may cheat. I believe as her huband it is his duty to provide her this, even if he is not interested, perhaps at a reduced rate.
I don't believe anyone will see a problem with this. When the woman is the gatekeeper, its the same thing. We have to think about each other.
