I just read your own thread, sorry that you are still here after 5 years and dealing with your husbands MLC. You are correct, I don't want a divorce and have been trying to DB for almost a year now. However he is becoming more and more insistant and I guess if push comes to shove I don't know if what he originally 'offered' would be better for me than 50/50. I definitely need to talk to a lawyer to get things straight in my head. Problem is, no one yet knows (outside of my parents) that he is pushing for D. In our small town, word travels like lightening, so my problem is finding a lawyer far enough away to advise me and yet not inflame the situation.
I don't usually mention the OW at all, although I believe he writes to her frequently on email since he's always on the computer. I do try to be upbeat as well, although if your MLC H lives at home you know how hard it can be to always be 'on' and cheerful with them right there.
You must be a very strong lady to be DB-ing for 5 years, thanks for the example, it gives me strength. Hugs and Happy Easter to you!
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
