The dreaded LIMBO

[4luv]

Thanks for all the comments. I am back in my "right" mind this morning and after 2 days of my husband not contacting me after OW called, that REALLY spoke of his intentions about me. His words may say one thing but his ACTIONS show a lot different.

DLS,

I appreciate your comments and your train of thought is similar to a Plan A approach when an affair first starts. Similar to be the better option. However; please go back if you have time and read all of my posts. My husband claims to have feelings for me and for OW; my husband has said on several occasions that he plays people like a game to keep from getting hurt himself; my husband has told me that he was living a double life....I am sorry but he is not your 'typical' adulterer. He actually says he gets a thrill from playing this game with people.

This is why Allen (and alot of other veterans on this board) is advising me on not dealing with this man. My own father who is a mental health specialist (with an emphasis on drugs and achohol abuse) has warned me several times that my husband will need serious treatment. I didn't heed the advice of my father and my husband has acted out more and worst as time went on. Husband doesn't really want to be with OW and he doesn't really want to be with me. However, he USES the both of us to get his emotional 'fix' and drains people. Until my husband gets some help I am better off taking myself out of his mind games