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[iwantittowork]

Hey all, I need assistance on communication. I am copying/pasting emails exactly for your thoughts.

Got some miscommunication with stbxw on Easter with d9, so I tried to reach out to her via email in a way that validated if she felt differently than I did about situation and try move forward. She had assumed she would have d9 for Easter from the brief discussion we had at L meeting where my attorney kicked her and her attorney out of his office with no agreements. I had left that meeting figuring that nothing was agreed to.

So, in attempt to reconcile that, I sent her the following email:

"I will try and have d9 back to the house in the 6-7pm range, if that works for you, let me know.
I am sorry if you felt that we had this worked out at the lawyers.
I felt that we had not come to any agreements that day, and had been working off the previous 'ad hoc' schedule of me having her on weekends and us informing each other of impending schedule issues.
Can we agree to continue on this for now, with each of us informing the other of scheduling things? I have updated you via email previously and don't have anything else on my schedule that is a conflict yet. "

Comes her reply today:
"yes, thats fine. I will be looking into returning to college during the break and as I only have weekends for classes it would be helpful if you could take her on the 3rd weekend of the month as you have her grandparents for child care if you have other plans on that weekend. I don't have child care on the weekends as her brothers are not here then.
Whenever you drop her off this evening will be fine. I want as much stability in her life as we can provide."

So, her reply has me completely angry this AM. I am putting the 48 hour rule in affect.

So, she wants to return to college now, and going to have child care issues. For context, I will be asking for 1 weekend a month without d9 as part of our agreement. She already is attempting to back me out of that, under pretense of 'stability for our d9' Horsepucky! If you wanted stability for d9, maybe you would have worked on your MR rather than just dumping it for some new guy!

I love my daughter more than anything in the world, but I don't feel that 1 weekend a month for myself when I am working 5+ days a week, and taking her in most of my free time is much to ask for in our agreement, and I am sorry if that affects your plans stbxw!

Maybe I just set myself up for this reply by me email attempt, and maybe I am just way over reacting, so that's why I am posting here for comments.

Hit me with the 2x4 if you think I am, or give me some advice on how, or even if, to reply...

Thanks all, hope you are having a good Easter.