You can always find ways to knock that OM off your wife. I discussed it in another thread.
Like if you could prove that the OM viewed the wife as just a piece of ass. This one could be hard to prove, but if he posted any conquests or pictures of your wife on the internet.
Another tactic that worked, and it wasn't to knock the OM off, but it usually did. If the OM has a wife or GF, you get your conclusive information to the wife or GF. You are not trying to pour salt on her relationship, more or less prevent one less fool from being out there. The side effect is that the Wife or GF will usually pour enough hell into the OM where the relationship is put in serious jeopardy.
If the OM and Wife work at the same job, they may be violating workplace ethics. The HR and the Boss off the OM would get the conclusive information and someone will be reprimanded.
Some state and department agencies don't want affairs as part of their image, so they will attack it if they see it going on.
I heard the FBI won't mind helping out someone if their wife is cheating on them with someone who is a member of another agency. The reason is, if they are doing this, they are probably getting in some sort of trouble.
Keep doing what your doing. You may knock that OM off your wife though, because as long as she spends that private fantasy with him, any defence or strengthening of yourself will be unfairly dismissed.
Its hard. I hope it all works out for you.
In my situation "they" convinced my wife that every nice guesture, every gift, every kind remark, every thing nice I did for her was a manipulation.... They manipulated her into thinking like them.
So just like you I'm going to end up doing a ton of work without expecting reciprocation, and thats just how its going to be. I have no idea why she wants to be this way.
