How do you get those boxes again...I used to know how to do that. I'll have to figure it out later.
Anway, YES--it was/is totally unrealistic for him to work 14 hour days and do a huge remodeling project. (he would disagree. He sees this stuff done in 1/2 hour on television--thinks it's not that big a deal), and he does have blocks of time (3-4 days off at a time).
Like I said--it was the kitchen that nearly did me in. I said OK to doing the living room himself (removing a fireplace, french doors, removing pocket doors, etc.)
But he pushed me for the kitchen and I just about lost my mind. In fact--I think I DID lose my mind. I don't remember ever being that angry before in my life. I was consumed with hatred and rage that he would put us through so much stress. Blowing up like I did was a complete 180 for me. Shocked the heck out of him.lol. I've been pretty meek and mild for the past 6 years.
When we went to the counselor, he said of course this should not be done--he has NO TRACK RECORD of ever finishing anything. He is living a fantasy that isn't fair to his family.
I was able to not let the other things affect me for a long time. But I have a son who is aware that dad seems to have a problem. I am always worried how this is affecting him.
So why would taking meds be "desparate measures" to you? And do you have a site that talks about "life strategies"?
I'm going to go back and watch a couple more videos and then off to bed!
