here's a question. About this time of year, 2 years ago, you guys reconciled, correct? It had been a few months since her first bomb, and you gave it another go, but it didn't work out after a short while. What did that reconciliation look like? Be specific and detailed, if only to yourself (assuming you don't want to discuss it). Or discuss it. Either way. What matters is--
What would be diff about a reconciliation today? Assuming you can articulate specifics about how things would be different if you were to do it all over again, ((and if you can't be specifics about a reconciliation "now", you're probably nowhere near being ready for a lasting recon, honestly)), So what can you demonstrate to your w behaviorally, (and of course without saying it either) that would show evidence of this new sitch?
IOW, why should she believe things would be better this time?
Once you can spell this out with behavioral actions, then even if she doesn't come back, at least you'll know you are being the best man you can be, and not just talking and wishing it were so. Make sense? Good luck, He is risen. J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
