I'm back and looking for insight

[flowmom]

Wow--my husband has SAID he thinks he is ADHD before. I definitely will look more into this.

This is something to look into. Yes, there are meds, but there are also life strategies and working around stuff that one is not great at. I haven't really started dealing with my own ADHD, but I would consider taking meds if I thought it would help with procrastination (I would consider that desperate measures).

I have been watching some of the videos--they are GREAT!

The Work is probably the most important personal development process that I have been exposed to.

Please don't think I am nagging my H.lol. I learned that was a no-no a LONG time ago.

Good

The counselor may not be all that up on "perfectionism". I don't know much about it myself. I'm totally open to learning about it, and how it affects my H. I am very sympathetic in general, but...I do have to say...if I can change so much, I will be wanting him to at least TRY (aren't there meds out there for ADHD?)

It's reasonable to ask him to try, but ADHD is a big deal if he has it...and meds are unlikely to solve all the problem, probably depends on the person how effective they are.

I guess I'm a bit confused about expectations and maybe I missed something. Didn't you say that he works 14 hour days? And he's trying to do renos on top of that? It's simply unrealistic. If he is bringing in a reasonable income as you say, and can afford to provide you with a reasonable home, then the reno thing was simply a mistake that isn't working for either of you. Otherwise his procrastination doesn't substantially affect your life in a meaningful way...am I missing something?