Wow--my husband has SAID he thinks he is ADHD before. I definitely will look more into this.
I have been watching some of the videos--they are GREAT! Again, thanks for getting me that info!
Please don't think I am nagging my H.lol. I learned that was a no-no a LONG time ago.
No, I'm to list what needs to be done (which he and I did). Then the counselor wanted them to be put in order of importance. Then I'm to get estimates (you're right--he has no time to do these himself--it's to be hired out) Then I am to budget for them. No nagging involved. He gets to make choices, and in 3 1/2 years if he's chosen to do nothing, I get to make choices too.
The counselor may not be all that up on "perfectionism". I don't know much about it myself. I'm totally open to learning about it, and how it affects my H. I am very sympathetic in general, but...I do have to say...if I can change so much, I will be wanting him to at least TRY (aren't there meds out there for ADHD?)
I have already accepted a sex starved marriage from him. And we have a complete disconnect spiritually. And I accept moodiness, verbal outbursts, dissatisfaction, etc.
I am not a martyr. I have made the conscious choice to give my very best efforts to this man. That's who I want to be. But I have also given myself permission to not work so hard on this in 3 1/2 years if he choses to not follow me to a better marriage.
And I have LOTS of fun things to try--and lots to learn for now. Thanks for your input!
