Quick summary, married 12 years and we have been separated for about 4 mos. Wife filed for divorce in Feb. We have been in contact once or twice per week during our separation. No A for either of us during M. Since separation and then filing, I can't guarantee no EA on her part since we don't live together and have no reason to believe PA, but again we don't live together. I have had neither.
I sought professional counseling on my own at the end of 2009 just after separation, and she said she is now seeking help as well.
Some symptoms exist of both WAW/MLC, but probably lean a shade more toward WAW. Never heard the ILYBNILWY, but instead the growing apart speech. She also said she felt her needs did not come first and was just tired of it and angry.
She wanted to talk recently and we did so for an hour or so. Told me at that time that she was not as certain she wanted to divorce, felt some loneliness etc, but again not certain. Several days later, she said similar things I listened and for the most part the only thing I said was that I was interested in our M.
We have each met with our counselors individually since then. I have been encouraged by my C to be patient. Hers encouraged her to feel comfortable in taking the time she needs to think. I did ask her on a date and she said no. That is when she told me she needed some time.
