Foreverhesaid, If he wants the D so badly, let him do all the work. Do make sure you`re protected. My H cried D for 5 years and never did a thing about it. Just lots of threats, the last one so bad that I ended up filing, something I never wanted to do. My H and I are still in the same house.
You know the ow is just a bandaid, let her pressure him, you DB, treat him as you would a friend, be polite and civil, but do your own thing. Never mention ow in front of him. That is your time with him, why bring her up? Be positive and upbeat when you see him.
I`m in NY as well, yes all is 50/50. Don`t let him talk you into anything, get your own lawyer, H is NOT your friend, do not trust him.
