Finally have something a little interesting (at least to me) to post.
First I haven't checked this thread in a while and see that I have some kind folks that checked in on me. Thank you Cat and Mach! I sure do appreciate it!
This was a new sitch for me and I'm wondering if I handled it OK or should I have done something different. (I do want you all to know there is zero expectation with any of this.) Today my H took our D's out Easter shopping for clothes. Just before they returned a Harley pulls up in our driveway. Thinking it may have been a friend from work I went outside to say hi. Turns out it was a friend of DIL's that she works with. She works at the same place my H and S26 work. He's right around my age and he was paying some attention to me and to be honest I enjoyed it. Wouldn't you know that about that time H and the girls pulled in. H asked the D's in a not so nice tone who it was. They didn't know. Well, I just continued talking with the guy and DIL. I looked over once at H and if looks could kill I wouldn't be here. H just sat in his truck staring and stayed longer than necessary. The visitor knows my H from work although not well. He waved at H and H didn't wave back. The visitor seemed a little uncomfortable and decided to leave. H sees this and pulls out just ahead of him. Later I realized that I didn't even acknowledge H which was pretty rude I guess.
Found out later that the Easter plant that my D17 bought for me was actually paid for by H and he knew full well that she had money for it and what her intentions were. Do I tell H that D told me he paid for it and thank him or let it go?
Any advice or opinions on the way I handled this for future reference?
I don't know if I would say anything specifically about the plant, but maybe a quick thank you for taking the girls shopping or something along those lines.
OOOOh, somebody's jealous, and I wonder who HE was....!!!
I don't think your husband will ask any questions..it WOULD put him on the spot with you. He needs to think about what he's doing, and I don't think you were "rude"..sometimes they NEED to wonder what's going on, especially if you ain't talking about it.
They like to think they are in control of everything, and once in awhile, they DO need to see they AREN'T in control of anything the LBS is doing.
I'd say you did fine..you didn't do anything wrong, and your husband made assumptions that just weren't true, and you owe him NO explanation IF he were to ask you about it.
I know my husband acted really weird when I talked to another male, and that had an effect on him that I didn't know about until later on when he finally talked to me.
I never did anything wrong, but his head really went south...regardless of what he did to me..I wasn't supposed to do "anything" to him...funny; I really didn't do anything. LOL!!
But, I let him think what he wanted to, especially when I changed my hairstyle and stuff. It only served to hasten his journey back toward me.
Just me thinking some thoughts tonight.
Have a good one.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
