Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[june72]

I have another thought or two. You stated that she is very religious. If she can not read your note than perhaps have a person of good standing from the mosque translate it to her. But doing this you are admitting your wrongs to her and to the your clergyman (I know you have a different term)

If you are finding it really hard to quit porn that I think perhaps sex addicts anonymous or a group like that is in order. Your IC would know better.

Here is the thing OTMT. Repairing a marriage usually involves one person putting forth the good effort, work and changes. The other person sits back in disbelief and doubts your sincerity. This is where you stay strong and continue the path. You never falter. Then eventually you will see changes from the other person. The other person sees your good effort and wants it to continue and then puts forth good effort also.
The thing is is that it may take a while for the other person to come around. It can become discouraging to the person who is first putting forth effort. You have to stay strong and continue on the good path.

For my hubby and I I think it has been well worth the effort. We both has such negative feelings for each other and ill will. It was really bad. I was snippy and curt- he was too. We got into the habit of finding no good with each other. It was a dynamic that couldn't continue.