Thanks Grit- it is so difficult. I was 50 percent of this M that was failing..but I also didn't step out of the M. I have to keep remembering that. I honored my commitment and no reason in the world excuses H's behavior.

Just getting ready for dinner with H..he is picking me up. I have to say that I feel nervous which is weird. I have to keep all my db'ing tricks in mind. This is our first date in a long time. I didn't tell any friends or family that I am seeing him. Let's see how this goes...cautious optimism.