It is hard to resist the temptation to call her and tell her she needs to come home so we can work it out, change our situation to meet our needs, etc.
This is why women leave men. Men want to fix, not understand. It is very important VALIDATE right now. This does not mean agree.
It is so counter-intuitive.
Read these words:
"I understand why you feel D is the only option. I can see many other options, but if D is the only way you will be happy, I will not stand in your way."
If you want a chance to repair the R you need to say those words to W. Before you say those words, you need to understand why I highly recommend saying them and why she needs to hear them.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
