Admittedly, you fell in love w/your wife, knowing she's not a size 6, nor probably ever would be. So, I had a visual... With that said... I just re-looked at your pics. Take a close, hard look at your face, body language, and overall appearance, while on vacation w/your wife. Now, compare that to the pics of your birthday.
They don't even look like the same person. Seriously.
I hate to say it, because we're here to bust your divorce, right? Maybe? But... you look freer, healthier, joyful, released...
That's what a lot of DB'ing will do. If I wasn't reading my copy of DR and listening to the group; I might venture out and make some improvements on my own, but not to this extent. Or I might just be sitting around feeling sorry for myself.
Anyway. Yeah. I still love my wife. Was I happy in my M? No. Not really. Am I happy now? Not ecstatically happy, but different. I just feel very different. I do feel like a burden has been lifted. Not because my W is gone, but because I have been doing nothing but talk through all the problems I had bottled up. I realize I am not responsible for her happiness.
And you said my wife didn't look fun. Well, she's not. Not in that active, "Hey we are doing something. Isn't this fun" kind of way. Maybe she is taking this time to make improvements, too. Who knows?
All I know is that when I am having fun, I'm having a blast. When I have a bad day, I'm miserable. But before it was everyday, "meh" day in and day out. And when the W and I would do something, I would always be concerned about making sure she was comfortable. Now I only have to worry about myself, and I'm easy to please.
So, should I stay married? Who knows? I may not get to make that choice. How can one tell? I know my sitch is different than most. We don't have kids. Not a lot of property to divide. It would be easy and expedient to just D. Like I said, that is my pickle.
