OK, so I've gone back and forth with exposure plans and gotten good advice, but just to solidify the latest and ask opinions... hope Puppy gets on here before Sunday also - love to hear everything you guys say, both of you (Allen and Puppy). Anyone else please chime in with advice. (not leaving you all out, just that Pup and Allen are the most vocal on my thread)
1. Expose to H - keep brief and to the point - I plan to ask him to break all contact with her until Retro, although I know that's a long shot, I may be able to appeal to his sense of responsibility. It's in there somewhere. Along with exposure, H needs a new car and I plan on telling him that I will NOT be taking marital assets to buy a car so he can go see OW. I may suggest that we split up our money 50-50 as long as we live here. 2. Expose to OWH - I'm hoping I can catch him at work or else I will have to try their home phone which will be tricky. (hoping he doesn't know and that he wants to save their M) - guess all I can do from that point on is hope he gives me her cell number because all I have is their home phone and not even sure if it's the right one. MIL got it from her net detective subscription. Will try to make an appointment to go and see OWH in person to talk at length. 3. Expose to OW - tell her that I know, she's ruining our lives, breaking up a family, hurting many people, she is not the first "soul mate" he's found outside of our M, and by the way, I hope she uses a rubber or doesn't have any STDs, although I'm going to get tested anyway. 4. Try to get to see best friend with MIL & FIL to expose to him - although he already knows, I'm hoping that hearing my side will at least make him say to H that he doesn't want to be in the middle, and bring her around after the D but not before. I know that I was planning a party and H asked him to keep their "secret" secret, and he was uncomfortable even seeing me so he asked him to call off the party... and I know the moral character of this man. I know he's very uncomfortable about keeping this secret, but H is a very good friend and he's doing what he thinks is best, only knowing H's side of the story. 5. Go change the locks on apt, making them find somewhere else to meet. Will become tricky, unless they just go have sex in a car somewhere. OW lives an hour away and H's car is not in good enough shape to make it. Anyone know how to change a lock?
Comments? I'm sick to my stomach, although by tomorrow I will be strong and ready, I'm sure. Lots of praying tonight.
