Ok, I haven't read your whole sitch. Are you separated?
I did read like the first 10 pages. I saw a lot of fighting.
Today! You WILL NOT FIGHT!! GIVE UP!! It's fine--doesn't make you a doormat--makes you SMARTER THAN HIM. He can't fight if there is no one around to fight with, right?
Make yourself calm, attractive, sweet, a "lady" who ANYONE would like to be with.
What is your H's LL? Let's figure that out right away.
Listen, even if there is a girlfriend--doesn't matter. You have a bond with him that is going to be hard for him to break. My H had a EA going with a NUTCASE. She was "there" for him. First of all, what normal girl gets involved with a guy going through this. She is probably a loon anyway and you can win him back IF you start some changes.
Thanks for commenting on my thread--my sitch is different in that I was very active with this about 6 years ago. We never separated. I saw lots of people who did get their Hs back even when they did separate. And I had a friend that lost her H even when they didn't separate. But you know what? She is doing GREAT. This will work for you, either way.
Here is something I found to be true back then--it was MUCH easier for Ws to win back Hs. Hs who had WAW had a much, much tougher time, even though a lot of them did the DBing stuff textbook right. You CAN make mistakes--it isn't the end of the world when you do, but you have GOT to dissect them and figure out how to do it better!
