Again, he was emotionally stunted at an early age and that's where he needs to go back to in order to grow up.
The place where he is living is the exact same building as where we lived when we first got married. Said he went back there because he remembers it being a happy time for him. But I'm not sure he means the marriage!!
He also started his first real job then, at a place where he was really truley accepted for who he was. He had a blast. He did not bring me around with those people (which does not bode well for developing a deep and meaningful relationship with one's newly minted spouse!). Now I'm remembering a girlfriend of mine, who worked there for a few weeks, being shocked that he had a whole separate social circle going on with those young single work people. He still keeps contact with some of the people from then (including, unfortunately, one guy who had a whopper MLC). If I'm being honest, I seem to remember feeling that he might leave me back then, maybe he thought he got married too young, I was the best choice for him at the time but then he moved to the big city and a whole different world opened up that he couldn't have imagined. But then I got pregnant, and that led to a whole different series of choices involving family, housing, little money, difficult times, and loss of that peer group. Could he back there as a "crisis" child, looking for what would have happened if he'd taken the other path? Of course they also all moved on decades ago, and thus the conflict today, the distance/dance/pursuit, wont give up on us and wont give up the apartment (because maybe he's not yet been there long enough to find "them" again...
... does that make sense?
And if so, how does a crisis like that end? How does he see his way home, or continue to journey "out there" looking for the lost path.
Snodderly, in your experience, what happens with these guys??
