Will tell the whole story later. The short version is I can't live like this anymore. I am not ready to give up on our marriage, but if she wanted out, I would not stop her. However, she was the one who was going to leave, not me. She didn't know what else we could try. I said counseling, whatever. We could try talking for a change, go away for a weekend without the kids. Maybe seperating would make us see what we have is worth saving. I said again, that's not what I want but would help her pack her bags if she wanted to go.
She also said lots of things about me being gone so much lately and stuff like that.
So, is GAL working? Is her being jealous good? What do I do from here?
I'm surprised how calm i was and still am. I knew this was coming and I knew what I needed to do.
Next steps?
I'm proud of you, IDU! That's tough to do and you did it. Way earlier than I did in my situation. You did the right thing.
You don't talk about the OM and your W much, so I'm wondering what the deal is there. I think how you proceed depends a lot on that relationship. If she is in an active affair, I think you have to call her out on it and state that you will not share her, and that you cannot live with someone who would openly disrespect you in that manner. If she is not willing to break it off, then she MUST move out, and put a tight timeline on it.
If she is not involved with the OM, then you can take other steps toward saving your marriage.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
