Second, Your h wants to reconcile one more time to see if it will work for him. He knows from the past, that it didn't, but to prove to himself and yes, to others, he wants to try again. Many of them leave and return and then leave again because nothing has changed in their minds. They are forgetting that it is them and not us who are not happy and looking for that illusive happiness. Marriage, family and life are work, but it can be a "good" type of work if someone works at it. Every relationship has ups and downs.
Your h is emotionally high charged right now because of mlc. He's operating on emotions and certainly isn't rational part of the time. Again, he was emotionally stunted at an early age and that's where he needs to go back to in order to grow up. He wants to "feel" that things are working and not putting forth the effort to meet you half way. It could very well mean that if it doesn't work out, he's moving on and going to France to live out his fantasy life. Of course, in his mind, he wants you to wait for him and stay right where he left you. Unfortunately, life doesn't work that way.
You will need to determine whether or not you want to take another chance on him moving back in. If he returns, how will you children react to this? If he bolts again, how do you think they will react? You have a tough decision to make for you and your family. You already are aware of all his baggage/bs, so you now need to take some time and think about whether it's worth him coming home half baked or attempt to move on w/your life and if he bakes up and comes to his senses and wants to reconcile, whether you want to consider it at that time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
