I do know one thing my H was depressed for quite a while before he left, but could never really tell me why. First it was one thing and then another and it kept changing. He would tell me that he felt that all he was doing was just existing. There was no happiness or joy in his life.
SA - almost identical with mine. His depression goes back almost 4 years now. Wasn't so obvious to me at the time but when I look back there were so many signs...He didn't express any unhappiness with our relationship, just about work, dreams, life in general. He was looking for thinks to make himself feel happier...started running, volunteering... none of it worked to bring him the relief that he was looking for, I guess that at that point he decided that our marriage must be the reason for his happiness and started an affair. Our relationship came under attack only when his affair started.
Now he left me and seems more miserable then ever before...He actually acknowledges that he is still unhappy, but again (justifying) he is unhappy because of our "situation". If D & I didn't exist and he could disappear into the sunset with OW would he be happy? I doubt it....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
