Still working on boundaries. OM continues to be a big problem for me. W won't respect keeping him away when kids are with her. Today we have another argument because she plans on taking kids to OM family's easter picnic. Still a very emotional issue for me but beside that I think it is completely inappropriate. Of course she can't see my pov and now I'm wondering if I'm completely of my rocker.
Once I calmed myself down I laid out what I thought was a good boundary. If W continues to include kids in her adult relationships I will not be flexible with the schedule as I have been in the past. For example I will not allow her to have the kids on my normally scheduled days regardless of her schedule.
I really suck a boundaries so I need some guidance here. Did I cross the line? Is this controlling?
One other thing I threw into the conversation was as we can't see eye to eye on this topic maybe we should sit down with her paster and discuss.
This seems to be a big hurdle for me.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
