One thing that is typical in all these sitch's is the WAS will surround themselves with people who will bolster their position. Anyone or anything that is in direct opposition to the course they are on will be rejected and ejected.
My W has done the same thing. They do this to rationalize what they are doing is the right thing to do.
Do you want to be with someone who is so flippant about marriage? Someone who apparently didn't hear the 'for worse' part? (My W obviously didn't hear it either)
I say let them bury themselves in their own rationalizations. That's their baggage. It does suck, but it is what it is.
We all have a tendency to look the other way in the beginning of a relationship. Those things we find so 'cute and quirky' about our partner turn out to be the things we end up resenting. Learn one of the lessons here. Keep your eyes open early in the relationship knowing in the honeymoon phase we are blind and people are mostly on their best behavior.
Red flags can't be ignored and need to be addressed early on.
This is my challenge to you:
When he started to do less and less around the house, why did you let him get away with it? This is one of your issues to work on.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
