SCH thank you my friend. I know it's early in the game, I shouldn't and I don't expect his affair to be over anytime soon...This affair is just making the transition from "secret" to "public". It has to "play out" it may take months (It started a year ago).

I asked OW's husband why doesn't he hire a nanny why does he let her come to the house and pretend that she is a dutiful wife and mother when he knows that at night she goes to bed with another man.

OW's H said that he doesn't mind her continuing with her "duties". He reasons that she will have no time for WH and she will realize she will have to choose between the kids and WH.
If he lets her continue taking care of the house and the kids during the week then she also wants to spend time with the kids on the weekend and the kids refuse to have anything to do with WH or to be in his presence. She will also have to get a part time job to support her self....when will she have time for her "new life with WH"? Also OW's large family has totally rejected her.
OW's H also said that he will fight for the full custody of the kids even if it'll cost him every penny he has.

Well that's his strategy, who knows how things play out on that end.

Time is on my side...yes it is (song) smile

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO