She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

tbart, I want you to notice something before I address any of the stuff you've written:

In the first post in this series, after you spoke to her and she reiterated the legal S. You were shaken and the rug was pulled from underneath you.

Your last post you have a totally different and more hopeful outlook.

It's your roller coaster based on what she is saying and doing.

Don't get me wrong, you are handling things exactly the way you need to handle them and I'm really proud of you. You're nailing it. Just don't get cocky and keep doing what you're doing. Remember, as you can see, things can switch on a dime.

Back to my original subject. This is what I mean when I say you have no idea where things are going. After the first conv you thought things were going south, as it 'appeared' to be. Your demeanor went south with it. Then she thought a lot about what you said and how you acted, talked to you again, and some of what she said (MC, postive indicators, happy about how you guys can talk, etc..) has shown the sitch 'appears' to be heading north.

This sitch will go all over the place. You are doing fantastic. When your heart drops or your stomach fills with that nauseous feeling do not react, act, then come here and dump. It's what you are doing, so keep doing it.

I'm not one to say how things look anymore when it comes to a sitch. But I will tell you I think you are doing a great job. Time will tell where it ends up. Don't worry about the outcome, just keep your eye on the present now.