She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[tbart01]

I want to thank all you guys and DR. I have a long road ahead and I know it, but baby steps have already been made.

My W and I spoke again this morning, and she had allot of honest things to say to me. It appears that last night when we got off the phone she thought all night about how I acted and didn't react to her news. She said she was very surprised and happy about it. I passed my first test.

Since I acted on her words she felt more comfortable talking to me. She spoke to me for an hour about R stuff. She is absolutely looking forward to seeing me, but is still sceptical. I validated her once again, but made it clear to her that this is the new me. i told her she has no reason to believe it just because i said it.

She really wants to make me dinner my first night, and she looks forward to us being able to talk. She said that yesterday was very nice because she didn't think she could talk to me like that. I told her that I was pretty confident that the old defensive, over reacting me was gone.

When the topic of legal S came up and why she was doing it, she said she was giving me a year. She said I had time to show her whether or not my changes were permanent. She actually brought up stuff about the future.

Just by listening to you guys and what I've learned from the book, I may have had a positive impact on our future. Of course only the future will tell.

I do know it's way to early to get too positive, but this is a great step in the right direction. I was put to my very first test, and I passed it.

i guess you guys are correct in saying that it's only a piece of paper. She still plans on MC in our future as well. She really liked the new way we were communicating and listening to one another. I've known for months I could do it, but she finally let her guard down a little.