Hey! I'm from Pluto and I can report that that crap is... like... way further out than my home asteroid (we were downgraded from planet status recently and that SUCKS!)
Frac, I'm still around. Been busy with some shirt. Meant to post yesterday on what Puppy said...
Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
that's just it -- I'm not seeing where F could have done much better as it relates to his wife's marital "complaints." Not saying he's a saint, but my read on the sitch (and granted, it's only based on what we read here of his posts -- perhaps Gnosis could weigh in on this, as he knows the sitch better) is that F's wife's gripes are just gaslighting and re-writing of marital history.
Yeah, I am a bit more "in the Gno" than the rest of you guys.
I don't want this to get to be too long a post... Frac has done the best he could with the cards he has been dealt. I can relate to his being in a foreign country with ZERO IRL support apart from this board. I don't think any of you can fathom the extent of the stress created by those factors. Both on his W and himself.
Overall he is doing well with what he is dealing with and NO CONTACT is the best medicine for him right now.
Frac, as hard as it is, make an effort to block thoughts of your W and what she is saying and doing. The more you dwell on that the more difficult it is going to be to regain your inner-strength. The crap thing is it is going to take time.
RIGHT NOW you are NOT in the correct frame of mind to contemplate the "error of your ways" and mistakes in the M. The Who, What, Where, When, Why and How the attraction was lost discussion is a waste of your energy right now.
Don't try to reason this out because that is the path to insanity.
The BEST thing you can do is bury yourself in work, outside activities: walking, visiting the sites, taking small trips, getting involved with the expat community. i.e. GET BUSY
