How do you accomplish the distance and space when there are small children involved? I know my H, is very insecure when it comes to taking care of of a 3 yr old and 1 yr old. I currently bring my kids back to where we used to live, and stay with a friend while my H has our kids, just so I am close if there is a problem.
Question for you: how is he ever going to learn to take care of the kids on his own if you are close in case there is a problem? Think about the message you are sending to him: you are saying "I don't trust that you can take care of our kids".
Originally Posted By: jtish7234
I want him to be able to do it on his own, but I fear that if he gets discouraged or looses his patients, he may distance himself from our kids, and I don't want that to happen.
Your husband is responsible for making his own relationship with his children. You can't make him want to be a parent, or even be a particularly good parent.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
