Well this is it. I just realized I was dumped. And all my work at DB just gave him the impression we would divorce "peacefully" and as friends. Doormat.
H4L, I don't think it's that simple or clear, fortunately and unfortunately. I do think that you have a huge vulnerability that is clouding things for you though...and that's your concern for about your son and how to manage things for him. This has created a lot of enforced togetherness between you and H at times when it hasn't been healthy for either of you. I don't have any solutions for you, but I hope that you can look at how to shift things to make things work better for yourself. Remember that our children need us to take care of ourselves...even at the expense of their own needs at times. That's a lesson I've had to learn the hard way...having deeply failed my children by failing to nurture my M as I poured my focus into them.
LauraOh, it's very interesting to read your thoughts! You make a lot of good points.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
