I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I consider him a great friend, even after all of the above. No matter the bashing on this that I am sure is due to come my way, this is MY phase and MY steps of getting out of MY fog. I KNOW deep down it's a "sick" friendship. It's the physical breakaway that is going to cure me of this thought process.
Don’t worry about what we might WANT to hear.
You know it would be nice for us, LBS, to hear how horrible the OP is. To us, that person is horrible. But something I realized a while back, obviously, at the time anyway, the OW gave/give my H SOMETHING, I can only speculate as to what, that he needed. That is something he will probably always appreciate and will always keep a small “warm spot” for them.
It sounds like you know what his fault’s are. You know why he is not the right person for you to be with. But at the time you welcomed him into your life, he also gave you something good.
That is something we LBS need to learn. To accept. To do our best to understand.
I also am not so sure you sound like a runner this time. You sound like you have really seen what the R is and that it just is not good for you.
I will ask now though…
Even if you are not running from him, are you running TO your H?
Hey, if I’m asking too many questions, don’t be afraid to tell me to shut up LOL!
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
