I have been married for almost 26 years to my wife. My wife still lives in the house but informed me 7 months ago that she wanted a divorce. She has refused marrital therapy and refuses to speak with anyone. We have a son deployed in Iraq and my wifes sister has metastatic cancer. I did not know if the depression and possible mid life crisis maybe causing her to act this way. She has refused a medical evaluation. She says she is private and does not need to tell the world her business. On the other hand I have tried to speak with professionals regarding our concerns. In any case I have read 2 of Michelles books on marrital remmedy and divorce busting. I also downloaded her marrital therapy seminar hoping she would want to share but she had no interest. She was put through nursing school by me but never worked in a hospital because of the birth of our daughter 15 years ago. Now my wife wants to pursue dental hygiene and have me pay the bills and move out of the house for 2 years while she completes her course. She has literally shut the door on my mother and brother and will not communicate with them I on the other hand have still remained close to the in laws. They do not want to get involved in our marriage issues. I feel all alone at present. I did see improvement with Micheles program but it seems as though I can not get her to change her mind. She says she no longer loves me and that I need to move on with my life. I have given her space and now the question is should I file for divorce? I really dont want to and I still love her but things do not seem better for me.
