!Help! Need Advice and encouragement!

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D-11 wants to go to the Easter egg hunt with her all of her cousins and all, so I may drop her off there--on the other hand, she would also like to see her grandma,(my mom)-and I think she would be okay if I made her come with me, but there's not as much for her to do at my mom's and I'm really having trouble deciding what's best.

My d-15 likes all 3 options and will go to whichever I suggest. She loves to see her cousins at Easter, and assures me about 'no mom conflicts', but I think she would like to be with me more than d-11 does. D-11 misses mom, terribly, of course. The whole thing sucks.

My mom would have us for dinner Saturday or Sunday, or if I don't want to come, she's okay with that, as well.(no pressure either way).

D-15's boyfriend's got a b-day party on Saturday for his niece. D-15 is okay with going w/me to my mom's instead-whatever I decide.

I honestly could probably make a 'good showing' at W's sister's Sunday--all her relatives have thought I was absolutely wonderful for the last 13 years. They know what all I've done for W and SOME of the cr@p I've had to deal with. Maybe they would tell W how she's making a big mistake. Or maybe she's got them convinced I have become an a$$ lately and I wouldn't mind disproving that by showing up and being my normal self. If I don't go there, it might reinforce the a$$ allegation.

Before she mentioned the party, it was simple. I used to be so much more decisive. I must be really screwed up. I think I would like to make d-11 come to my mom's on Sunday and forget about the Easter egg hunt altogether. W would miss them and MIGHT think about the holiday problems and heartaches. I'm having a hard time not resenting W for this whole mess.