Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[june72]

Come on, OTMT.
This is ridiculous. Will you start acting responsibly and work on saving your marraige here. How much are you going to put this woman through?
Do not lie. State I have to admit I am feeling weak today but I am strong enough to push through. I love you and am working on being a better man.

I have been thinking about it and I think the reason sex takes so long for you b/c you are not to in to it. It's b/c you are comparing her to these porno girls with their unrealistic bodies, it's very hard to have a body like that and many have lipo or breast implants, etc.

I think the issue is that you have screwed up your views on what is attractive. That your views are unrealistic. I know that my hubby stated he really felt that he needed a women that looked like a model (with an awesome body and no less). He states now that he had screwed up views on women.

In college- no girl was pretty enough for him. They all had some flaw. Mostly he thought they were all too fat- even the ones that were not overweight. Many girls wanted to date him- he rejected them all. See how screwy he was, I mean ridiculous. He really wanted to have a girlfriend but none ever met his standards.

Fix your standards OTMT


What does "Where's that bunny?" mean? Is that a reference to fatal attraction? What?

So did you look at porn anyhow today? Knowing that it would upset your wife? You need to be truthful here. I bet you did.


I honestly am really ticked at you. You put everything wrong with the marriage as her fault. Find it hard to own up to any of your wrongdoings. Finally admit to a porn addiction (big deal, my friend) and still don't seem to get how important it is to take responsibility for you actions and behavior.


Come on man, step up!

The way I am looking at if for the moment? Why shouldn't she want to D you?


You have talked and talked about how this marraige is not working for YOU ad nausium. Never ONCE have you mentioned your children. Your love for them, the desire not to hurt them with a D. It has been all about you and your happiness. Don't you get that marriage is not all abut happy times. Marriage is about weathering through rough times together. Marriage is about sticking it out when the times get tough.

You have put your wife through the wringer and she has stuck it out. Do you really, raelly get how much you are hurting here? Forget your unmet needs for a moment. Tell me what in the world have YOU been doing to try and improve things, beside complain.

And then when your wife needs a walk. You complain that you are in no condition to watch the kids!!! Like she is? Can you stop thinking about yourself????

OK, I will give you kudos that you are going to IC. I am very happy for that. And very glad that you have stuck it out here. But going to counseling one hour a week and posting here is NOT enough. As CG said, you need to take actions!!!!!!

OMG, OTMT, what more can I say.