Hi G, As you saw over in newcomers, this week has been pretty wild. I shared what happened with the mistake email with my DB coach who thought it was expertly handled also!
Thanks for sharing your finances discussion. Good you took control because your H was not being frugal. Mine is.
And, guess what? I was out today brunching with a girlfriend, and guess who walked into the cafe??
Yes, WAH!
I decided to be the first to say hello, and asked if he wanted to have the finances conversation face to face. He said, yeah ok.
To sum up that 15min conversation, WAH agreed it was good for me to open up my own bank account, he assured me that he was being frugal with money at his end (true), and I validated his attempts to get work & sympathised with how hard it must be. He agreed that our joint accounts should only be drawn on if it's for baby's needs.
Now, was it a good idea to have that conversation face to face, rather than in the more controlled environment of email?
Well, it was a good test, I suppose. I was less ice-queen than I would have been 5 weeks ago when I last saw him. I set the terms, and was the one to wrap it up which I am happy about. But I think I came across not completely friendly.
My evaluation is, that I put forward on email a better "me" than I can achieve face to face (at this stage).
What also stuck me was how much I hate what he is doing and I am saddened and confused by his lack of remorse. It made me not like him very much, and makes me feel like I still NEED him... which is bad.
This really sucks...
It's a moments like these when I realise I really haven't fully integrated everything that is happening to my life and my M, that I am ONLY JUST managing to GAL but not more.
