SpinFree...I'm happy for your update. I hope it lasts. If you keep up the things that worked to get you in a better place, it may last. If you slack off and accept less than all you want or deserve, she will likely slack off again, too.
Her thinking you would never leave no matter how bad it got, and her getting that idea readjusted in her head, was a really REALLY great step. I think that all spouses need to understand this about each other and should never be feeling that their spouse would never leave. We should always be acting as if our partner may leave if we don't keep up our end of the deal. Never get complacent, never get arrogant about your spouse's love for you, never take it for granted.
So at this point, if this better place for you lasts for a while, I hope you would show her how much happier you are, so she will feel that her new behavior can make you both happier, and she will feel the reward of her changes. I hope that makes sense. She will likely revert to her old ways soon if she doesn't feel that her changes made a positive difference. You don't need to kiss her feet and thank her profusely...instead, hopefully you will show her more love and more understanding and more of the things she is needing from the relationship.
