She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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After she told me abot filing for legal S, she continued to have one of thebetter talks we've had. She claimed she's been telling me for a long time that she wasn't happy. I told her she may have, but not as clearly as I neede to hear it.

She said I've made changes ion the past to apease her and then I would revert back. i validated this, and told her she had no reason to believe my changes were real. I told her that only time will tell.

I let her know thatthis isn't what i want, but she needs to do what she needs to do. I told her I still value our M and will continue to fight. I told her I will move forward, not move on, and she understood the difference.

I told her that I no longer neede us, but I still wanted us. At one point she started top argue, and I told her i refused to argue, and would get off the phone if that's what she wanted to do. She calmed down and we had a good talk.

I told her that when I returned home to not be afraid to lean on me or ask for help on anything. She said she absolutely would do that, because she has no one else.

By the end of the conversation she said that we'll see how the separation goes and we'll see what happens. She obviously needs to see that the new me is for real. She said it will be nice to see me again and that she wanted to make me dinner when I got home.

It was a difficult conversation, but a good one. I was hoping the S could wait until I got home or that we wouldn't even need to go the legal S route. This gives her peace and that's fine with me i guess. She said we would talk about all the specifics when i get home, and come up with mutual decisions.