WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

Lots of negative people around me telling me that I'm crazy to even consider a possibility to take H back. That any good feelings I have are not for him, but that I miss someone loving and appreciating me. That he was never really good to me or for me and he only proved it by the actions in the last year.

H's family seems to be embracing OW more and more.. I found out about a niece's accomplishment because a comment from OW was on my niece's facebook page about it. Even the SIL that hated what H has done is now friends with her. I feel like I'm being systematically and coldly shut out by all of them.
The sense of loss is overwhelming.

SIL1 kicked him out and told H that he would not be able to go back unless he stopped touching my money. She said that his trying to touch the disability money was crossing the line. H apparently finally agreed to her condition and is on his way back to her place. SIL2 feels that he is using them for $$$ and doesn't want him coming back.

SIL1 seems to buying into H's claim that I was a horrible wife to him and that he finally couldn't take it any more and found someone else... Said that H built every ounce of the life I am enjoying right now and I should be careful that he's going to try and take it all away through the courts.

Am I really looking at my M through false positives? Was I really the horrible wife everyone thinks I am? Was he really that bad for me to begin with?

I'm feeling so alone in my feelings right now...

How do you write off someone you have always loved unconditionally?