I just looked at your first post, didn't read all of the replies. I'm a mom of a D16. Yes the world is quite different now then when we were 16. My daughter shares lots of information with me, sometimes to much, sometimes I feel "I didn't need to know that" hahaha.
I know the sexual history of 1/2 of the kids in her grade - she tells me all. We live in an urban, affluent, upper-middle class area. So this may surprise you. Some of the 16-year old girls already had multiple sex partners, quite a few of them 5 - 8 sexual partners and I'm talking intercourse, oral sex apparently doesn't count into that. Some of these girls don't even date the boys...it's that casual.
I feel lucky that my daughter (like yours) has a long term relationship, with someone she trust and loves. Yes we did talk (quite a bit) about protection, STD's and such. That's all you can do, give her information. There are some excellent web sites for teens that deal with sexual issues, so you may want to refer her to those...she can find the information she needs.
Check this one out. Read it first to see if it doesn't offend you or your religious believes.
