D texted WH in the morning to tell him that she has bronchitis (he wasn't in touch with her all week). WH then called me asking for details and being upset that I didn't call him. I said that I wasn't sure if he was interested in D, since he doesn't see her or call her himself. The line went dead. I called him back questioning if he hung up on me or if the call dropped. He said that he hung up, that he needed to calm down that I can't tell him that he is not interested in his D. And again blamed me for not calling him about he being sick.

I said that I didn't call because I wasn't sure how much he wants to know about her life since he is not expressing much interest in her...then he started arguing that he does and I have no right to tell him that he doesn't. (Since he moved out in January he had dinner with her twice, calls or texts with her maybe once every 2 weeks).

I said "I don't want to argue, I'll let you know next time when she is dying"...he hung up again. I didn't call him back. I guess I could have handle this better, but I was pissed off at his putting the blame on me for not calling him. I lost control...not good DB'ing

Right after that D told me that dad called her and asked if she wants anything, she asked him to bring her some McDonald's. So 10min later he just shows up (I told him before to call me not just show up). All pissed off; he said "I'm here to see D". And waltzes right past me into her room and shuts the door. He stayed for about 15 minutes.

When he came out I asked him "Is this how it's going to be? You hanging up on me?" He said that he can't talk to me when I accuse him that he doesn't care about D. I calmly told him that I'm just sad that he sees her so little that he was always such a good dad, why doesn't he see her more? He barked, well from now on I will come and see her HERE anytime I want to. I told him well you have to call first and see if it's OK with me. "No I don't" he said. "If you'd let me come here anytime I wanted to I would've seen D more often...Wow...he just put the blame for not seeing his daughter on me. It's now my fault that he doesn't see her because he can't come here anytime he pleases...Wow

I told him that he has his own apartment, why doesn't he invite her there? He was getting angrier and angrier. Said "I just want to be able to drop by and see her HERE without planning". I told him it's OK to come as long as it's convenient for me and he gives me at least 1/2 hr notice.

At that point I just couldn't believe this was my H standing there talking to me the way he was, with this coldness and anger. How did I deserve that, why does he hate me so much? I know I'm not supposed to take it personally...

I said "you have changed so much, I can't believe the way you talk to me, why so much anger, what did I do to you? We never talked to each other this way before your affair started.

His reply "I haven't changed, I'm the same, you see...we can't even talk to each other, that's why I left".

cry I have enough of this craziness. Sometimes I wonder, am I the crazy one or is he?

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO